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Out of the Mouths of Babes

A year or so after I had twins, a 9 year old asked me if I was pregnant (I was not). I remember it clearly. Sometimes a child’s inability to filter what they say can sting and stay with you forever. Most recent, and purely innocent I’m sure: “You have to pay for college yourself?” said to our daughter by a 13 year old as if this young teen honestly didn’t know that not all parents pay for their children’s college education.

NOTE: Names withheld to protect the innocent. :)

We live in a semi-affluent area, where many kids do go on to college right after high school. So it’s already a tough subject for us. Unfortunately, we’re in a situation where  we can’t afford any extra monthly payments but don’t qualify for grants. I already feel terrible about that so any time the subject is brought up, I get a knot in my stomach.

They should make some sort of financial planning class mandatory in high school (preferably during their senior year) with a strong emphasis on budgeting, living within your means, and the dangers of credit cards.

In any event, it is not unheard of (and most certainly not wrong) for young adults to pay for their own college education. As much as it kills me that we can’t pay for it, I think this is a great lesson in financial responsibility and working for what you want.

I leave you with this unfiltered funny…

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Basement – Part 1

We only have use of about 1/3 of our basement. The other 2/3 are crawl space and utility/laundry space. So now 1/6 of our basement is my office and craft space (The Mothership). I’ve already rearranged it since that post to open it up more. The other 1/6 is open for collecting whatever as many basements do unless they are completely finished and kept up by people who believe houses should be perfectly neat in every way. If that works for them, great! I don’t subscribe to that way of thinking. :)

So… we, because it’s our nature to take in stray humans, :D will again have a house guest and her trusty canine sidekick for a while beginning in December after her college semester ends. For reasons I don’t want to take the time to go into long details about, Kennah (our son’s girlfriend) will be moving back up here from New Mexico while Jason begins his search for another job. That won’t be until he’s completed a full year at least, which wouldn’t be until a new semester starts. So to avoid interrupting college classes, she’s going to move up here to begin her second semester. Who knows what the future holds beyond that, but they’re making it work the best they can. Added bonus: Jason will fly up on his days off more often!

I initially thought of using that open space because it has a TV and plenty of space for the dog kennel as well. Then I thought about moving shelves out of the Mothership out into that space and setting something up in my office. Then I thought of the times I like to work on personal stuff and photos during odd hours, so I’m back to plan A. A new thought just hit me, too. She loves camping. We have tents. 8O What if I set up a tent in that open space?! How quirky cool would that be???

This is what I have to tackle (don’t judge!):

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Elephant Passage at Denver Zoo

I had been waiting for this new exhibit to open at the Denver Zoo ever since it was first announced. It was to be called “Asian Tropics”, which I think they should have stuck with. Now it’s technically called “Toyota Elephant Passage”. Who ever heard of a Toyota Elephant?! Another example of a huge sponsor insisting on having their company name highly visible. I think it’s vulgar, and it certainly doesn’t make me want to go out and buy a Toyota. :D There are more animals in this exhibit than just elephants, too.

I debated on which blog to add this post to, but since it has more personal opinion (and snarkiness), I thought it belonged on my personal blog. ;)

The new exhibit is now home to two new male Asian Elephants, Groucho (41) and Bodhi (8). I thought it was going to be larger than it is, and I was disappointed with the view of the elephants through steel cables. I wish I had asked someone to explain the entire exhibit and exactly where all the elephants can roam. Here’s a map of the entire Denver Zoo. (Compare that to this map of the St. Louis Zoo, where African Elephants are found in the expansive River’s Edge exhibit.)

I did see something I’ve never seen before: Flying Foxes! Humongous bats! Don’t let the photo fool you into thinking this is only about 6 inches long. It was more like about 24 inches long!

I will always be partial to the St. Louis Zoo. It’s rich in history, has excellent exhibits, and is just beautiful all around. Plus, it’s FREE! :) I’m not bashing the Denver Zoo. I’d probably go more often if it were free.

These were my favorite shots from the day, and they aren’t even of animals!

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Heaven Fest 2012

Mention Heaven Fest to someone who doesn’t know anything about it, and they seem to draw their own conclusions – much like their reaction at the mention of the “C” word (church) or the “J” word (Jesus). Why do so many people thing all Christians are crazed holy rollers? Do you even know me? :lol:

So this was my first Heaven Fest this weekend, and I really enjoyed it! It was hot and windy, and super fine dirt was blowing everywhere, but it was still a great time! Info on the site said not to bring professional type cameras, so I left mine at home. I didn’t want to carry the extra weight around that long in the heat anyway. It also said not to bring chairs taller than 12″ off the ground (stadium and low beach chairs were OK), but so many people had their regular folding camp chairs there! Now that’s one rule I would have liked to have broken as well. Logging a mental note for next time.

We made it there in time to start our day listening to Read You & Me. I work with two of the band wives! This band tours with Heaven is For Real Ministries around the world and were recently in Singapore. :)

This was Aaron Shust performing (photo below), and you can see the two main stages in the background. It looks dreadfully cloudy here, but most of this is due to the dust in the air. Some clouds did cover the sun, but it never rained!

Trace Bundy was cool. We actually got a spot under a small tree with some shade. I spread out a beach towel and put my bag behind my head to relax and enjoy his music.

Superchick was probably my favorite. They told the story behind writing We Live, which made cry a little. Tricia closed the set with a song from her solo album, You Are My Shepherd.

Jeremy Camp and Switchfoot were the last two bands on the main stages. Jeremy was awesome! We left before Switchfoot played. Hey! It was a long ride home!

As soon as we got home, we had to shower. That’s how bad it was. I’m sure I ate some dirt, and I know my lungs have never had this much dirt in them. It took a couple hours of coughing Sunday morning to clear them out!

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The Garden of Your Mind

I shared this last on Facebook last night, but I’m sure it fell so far down the news feed that no one will see it today – especially since such a small percentage of people stray from the Home page to visit Timelines (Walls) directly. I found a link to it on a photographer’s blog post. It’s catchy because it’s auto-tuned, but something else about it resonated with me so much that I felt it deserved its own blog post!

Here’s a version that isn’t remixed.

“Did you ever think of the many things that you’ve learned to do since you were a tiny baby?” Think about that! Why do we now go through our days doing the same thing over and over and balk about learning new things?

“You have wonderful ideas. All you have to do is think about them, and they’ll grow.” They really will! The trouble is, as most people would argue, we don’t have TIME to think about them. I’m going to play the BS card on that one. We don’t MAKE time to think about them. If you make time to do things that make you truly happy, bring you joy, then the rough things are easier to endure as well.

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Overworked, Under Paid, Overwhelmed

Time to Get it Together!

So I’ve been on this new schedule where I work four ten-hour days per week for a while now. It has it’s pros and cons. The days are definitely long, but there’s no extra commute time since I work from home. I do love having that extra day off per week, too! :D My scheduled hours on three of the days is what presents the only problem. I’m not done until 6:00 PM (or later if a phone call comes in last minute, which means I don’t really have a set time to clock out for the day). So dinner planning is even worse than it ever was with varying likes and dislikes (more dislikes than likes). Toss in the mandatory overtime and you can see why I’ve been a bit overwhelmed.

Being at least visible to the family for a decent amount of time on top of my schedule has pulled me away from blogging, jewelry-making, and photography. I could blog from a laptop to at least be present and not hidden away in my office, but I like to use photos in my blogs. Photos are on my desktop computer. I could make jewelry upstairs, but then I’d have to drag everything up there and then bring it all back down when I’m done. It’s easier to leave  it all together and to be able to leave it out so I can easily pick up later where I left off. Likewise with photography – Photoshop and Lightroom are on my desktop computer.

Making decisions has also become harder than ever because I don’t want to disappoint anyone. Trying to decide on what to have for dinner or where to go on days off that will please everyone (and not break the bank) is completely overwhelming to me. So I’ve decided I need lists. And I need to take the time necessary to make those lists. AND I need to not feel guilty about taking that time or feel silly because I need such lists. This could be what I need to remove some anxiety from my life. So I would appreciate not only support but also help in maintaining and adhering to such lists.

The first thing to tackle: Food

I spent some time this morning creating lists of things to keep in the kitchen for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. The most difficult, of course, is dinner. I hate that we’ve been doing the “free for all” thing for dinners due to schedule differences, and I miss having real meals for those who will actually eat it all at least a few times per week. So I also went back to my weekly meal plan lists and completed four weeks worth of those. Days can be switched or substituted along the way, and Saturdays are left blank for ideas or possibly dining out, but at least the ideas are there. This will all make it easier to make grocery lists and hopefully drop our trips to the store back down to no more than twice per week. I know some can shop only once per week or less, but fresh produce hasn’t been staying so fresh very long lately. Also, I hate waiting for meat to thaw or forgetting to remove it from the freezer in the first place. I like fresh! :)

To that end, I’m also looking for ideas to deal with the late hour I’m able to even start dinner. This morning, thanks to Pinterest, I found an idea that I’m going to try on Monday. Crock Baked Potatoes! It doesn’t take long to cook up some chicken breasts on the Foreman Grill to serve them with either. A little salad on the side and VOILA! Full meal deal! :)

As for the under paid part of the title of this post, it would be worse if I didn’t work from home. I’d have to update and maintain my wardrobe as well as commute to and from an office building. That alone would increase my insurance from my current “light use” status and increase the gas and wear & tear expenses for my car. The company claims to have done research and feels that the salary for CSRs (customer service reps) is right on par with other companies. They should revisit this because they are erroneously considering our department CSRs for payroll purposes, but we are Trust & Security Specialists. The work we do is far different than the other departments. I’ve trolled the internet for metrics from reliable sources (not ask.com or answers.yahoo.whatever type sites), and there are jobs with similar descriptions out there that pay a lot more than what I make. I don’t want to change jobs and work in an office building, though. So if you’re a coworker reading this, don’t worry! I’m not leaving my job! :D

So today I’ve taken some time to make a few lists, search the interwebs for dinner ideas, and blogged. A bit of weight has already been lifted. I think I’ll stop while I’m a tiny bit ahead and go shopping with the girls now. Baby steps! I’ll tackle something else tomorrow morning.

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Moving – Part 3

He moved the first time in October. There were tears. He moved the second time early January. No tears that time because I knew he’d be flying up on his days off. His girl was still here until they had enough money for the big move. That day finally came. They’re both moving nearly 400 miles away. I got this! He already broke me in.

Yesterday I realized that he was spending his last official night in Colorado as a resident on the same night as he spent his first official night in Colorado when we moved here as a family. February 27. Everything was packed in the truck except pillows, a blanket, and morning necessities (they slept on the floor at the apartment), and Jason requested Panda Express because they don’t have any in Farmington, NM. So Panda was waiting for them when they finally made it over after 9:00 PM. I was tired, which explains the robe.

They still had to bring over the second apartment key and the mailbox key in the morning for Josh, who’s taking over the lease on the apartment. So in the back of my mind, I knew that wasn’t the final goodbye for probably three or four months. I only had a little trouble falling asleep. However… I woke up to the sound of the wind still gusting and immediately worried about the drive with that big moving truck in the wind. Then it all hit me. I don’t “got this”! :( Waterworks!

I pulled it together, got dressed, drank some coffee, watched some 19 Kids & Counting (I can’t help myself), and waited. I was fine. They were here for a few minutes, gave Josh the keys, and then it happened. Kennah came in for the first hug, and I fell apart. Then I squeezed Jason, and he squeezed back, and I was a sobbing mess as they walked out the door. Then Ali hugged me. She left for school, I did some laundry, and now I’m crying again. Big, ugly, sobbing, sniffling cry face!

But… I know it’s time. First birdie to leave the nest. Second birdie on his way right behind him.

Ya know? Nobody ever told me about this part! I was never one to cry over little things. Okay, I cried a little when the boys started Kindergarten. Oh, and I freaked out when Jason broke his arm near his wrist. Those were short-lived bouts of tears, though. THIS is the hardest part of parenting in my opinion. Letting them go.

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Vive le Weekend!

Albeit a short weekend, it’s still a day off! As of this moment, I have 37.5 hours left before I have to clock in again. About 14 of those hours will be spent sleeping. How much can I do in 23 hours? For starters: this blog post!

There are so many things I need to get done. One might think that just because you have time off work, you must spend all of that time doing personal things that need to get done. I protest! I think it’s important to spend at least half of your time off doing things you enjoy doing as well. I enjoy being lazy resting. I just worked 11 days in a row, including 50 hours in the past six days. I think some rest is not only well-deserved but downright necessary!

I have a couple of movies I bought for $1.99 each at a nearby Blockbuster that’s closing. I plan on watching at least one of those. I also must give my seriously neglected camera a workout. I long to create a new piece of jewelry, too. However, you can’t force creativity to happen in a small window of time. So that may not happen … unless I watch movies at the same time. I do enjoy multitasking!

The main things I need to do are office related (including taxes). After working so much, personal office work is the last thing I want to do, though. :roll:

Nope! Twenty-three hours is just not enough time! Once a new manager is in place and the new staff is put on the weekend schedule, I think I might press for a full 4×10 work schedule so I can have my Sundays back. Having a full two days off in a row is more important to one’s mental well-being than I realized.

Vive le weekend!

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Rethinking Goals and Schedules

After two (or has it been three?) weeks in a row of mandatory five hours overtime with a max of ten (and of course, I do the full ten), I decided to take my full day off yesterday and not start before my scheduled late start time today. I didn’t even touch my own computer in that time. Refreshing and relaxing!

Experiencing that feeling made me want to rethink my goals and schedules. To get everything done, I generally multitask or switch gears quickly several times per day. My goal of five blog posts per week is now ridiculous in my head. I mean, who am I posting for? Why is it important to gather “followers” to my blog? What self satisfaction do I really get from that? I’d like to think that someone out there finds helpful information in some of my posts, but often, I post to ramble. So my goal is now modified to three posts per week. My weekly photo self assignments has been modified to at least twice per month.

Finally, I’m still pushing for a modified work schedule. The 4×10 (four ten-hour days) schedule is becoming more popular and has been mentioned as a possibility for the department I work in as well. Since I work two half days per week, I’ve suggested a twist on this for myself: 3×10 + 2×5. So five hours on Sunday afternoons and Wednesdays, and ten hours on Mondays, Tuesdays, and Fridays with Thursdays off. Then I would still work the first Saturday (ten hours) of each month in exchange for the preceding Monday off. Ten hour days may sound like a lot to some of you reading, but I’d rather get work out of the way like this and get an extra day off to relax and feel more like this…

P.S. I clocked in today to find that we now have mandatory overtime of TEN hours overtime this week. It’s a good thing I already worked an extra two hours on Sunday. :)

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Patience & Perseverance

Good things come to those who wait. I usually doubt that or at least wonder exactly how long we have to wait for those good things to finally come. The statement came true for Josh yesterday. He had been searching for a used car and saving money. There’s this one dealership that’s great for working with all sorts of credit (even lack thereof), but the one car he thought about test driving wouldn’t even start on the lot!

So we went across the street to a Mazda dealership to check out their used pre-loved cars. It turns out that they have a first-time buyer program. Who knew?! After some tense phone calls the next morning, they finally gave in and met his price. He finally has his own brand new car – a Mazda 3. He actually has TWO cars now. We have to figure out how to arrange everything in the garage to get the MG Midget to fit until he figures out what to do with it. The HOA will only be so patient, I’m sure! Plus, I want the driveway space back since there are so many cars on the street by evening taking up parking already. :O

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