A New Way to Look at Grammar Errors

I came across an article, complete with very cute graphics by the author herself, in my daily Summify feed that made me smile. It began with the shortening of words, such as “u” for “you” and such. The article then focused largely on the use of “alot” instead of “a lot”. It is two words!!! It’s a fun and light post but of course, there are always a select few who take offense and have to argue. Here is one of the comments to her post (sorry, I don’t censor direct quotes – even when they come from anonymous people):

huh… to be honest, I completely disagree. I think its interesting how as time changes so does speech and rhetoric. The means to which we communicate and the shear volume of communication that we share these days lends itself to “mistakes” and changes. What I think is even more interesting is the anger and intolerance that arises from these grammatical “errors”. I understand that we’re taught right and wrong from a very early age but I question the powerful energy that this generates in the wrong direction. What if these people haven’t been dealt the fine education that you obviously have? And when it comes down to it, the goal of communication is the transmission of ideas. As long as the message is not misunderstood, than who the fuck cares? I have to wonder whether this type of intolerant mindset carries over to other facets of life… hmmm… scary.

Really?! While grammar errors amuse me (some do get under my skin), I am not intolerant. So if we continue to make these “mistakes” enough, they will become acceptable changes? Are they going to teach you in school that it is equally acceptable to use “u” in place of “you” when writing that college essay? I highly doubt that. I do wonder if this is how “can not” became acceptable when the word is actually “cannot”. I’m pretty sure this is how “ain’t” came to exist in the dictionary (frequent use). If that’s a contraction for “am not”, why isn’t it just “an’t”? But I digress…

The anonymous writer of this comment asks, “What if these people haven’t been dealt the fine education that you obviously have.” I don’t know about the writer of the article, but most grammar-particular people do take things like that into account. GEESH! We’re not monsters! Not only lack of education, but where you were raised. There is one that I hear quite often from people in the midwest and extreme southeast and that is the use of the word “seen” in place of “saw”. Remember the “have, has, or had” rule?

I see it.
I saw it.
I have seen it. (or … I’ve seen it.)

There’s another one I’ve pointed out in the past that I never thought of until I saw it in writing: “I should of  done that.” Interesting! I guess we’ve made a contraction out of “should (could or would) have” so much (should’ve, etc.) that it actually sounds like that.

I think I’ll end on that note. I could’ve gone on and on and on, including pointing out my own grammatical errors. It’s true! While there are some that stick out like sore thumbs to me, I make plenty of my own mistakes as well. So while I put this out there for all to read, these are just things I notice. I can’t help that any more than I can help feeling closed in and hyper-sensitive to people bumping into me in a crowded space or someone’s knees in my back when jammed into bleachers. :P

Almost Ready…

…Driver’s License, Here She Comes!

With only a few hours of driving time to complete, we have a goal of June 27! We’re both off work that day. So that either means Greg takes the Jag to work that day, or she takes her test in the Jag. :D I think we’ll be squeezing in more Jag time anyway, and she did say she preferred how it handled over the Sonata the one time she drove it. I’ll be sure to take it off sport mode first! The biggest thing to her advantage in the Jag are the adjustable pedals.

She had been driving too and from school in the Sonata when Greg was still working nights at the place that shall not be named. When he got the new job working days, I wasn’t quite ready to hand over the reins to Miss Kitty. Then I ended up with a set schedule and on a rotating shift as a point person for urgent questions via Skype at work, so I was usually in a hurry when picking her up from school.

But no more excuses! She has a summer job with a varying schedule, and the sooner she can drive herself the better! Even more so when she can drive herself in her own car! Now… if anyone knows where she can find such a car for cheap (probably under $2000), PLEASE let us know!!! It must be small and reliable. Needing a little work is OK. Needing a lot of work is not OK!

Persnickety Miss Kitty

Waiting at the auto shop.

Remember my check-engine light and restricted performance message issue in my car earlier this year? It turned out to be a knock sensor (my car has two, lucky me). That was replaced in March, and everything was fine after that … until the day before my daughter’s prom when the car hesitated once and the light came on again. The next day it was off, and it stayed off until last week. They told me the other could take weeks or months to give me grief. It took just over two months.

So I took the car in on Monday, and they had the part in and work done by Wednesday afternoon. Rock on! Right? … Wrong! I made it almost all the way home and the light came on again! I called them right away and asked why, if it was fixed and fine, was my check-engine light on again??? Yesterday was packed with meetings and “taxi service” so I took it back this morning. Of course, the light was not on this morning. However, when the guy drove it, he did experience the hesitation once. That got their attention! A quick hook-up didn’t reveal anything, so someone drove me home so I could work and they could dig deeper into the car. Nearly seven hours later, it was done. They did find an intermittent misfire that was probably causing the problem. At least we all hope that was the root of it! I got the complete 100,000 mile tune-up at just over 72,000 miles, and they replaced the ignition coil and spark plugs and added fuel injection system cleaner.

Total for parts, labor, & diagnostics .. $565.27
Discount …………………………………… $565.27
Invoice total ……………………………… $o.oo (ZERO!)

Yeah, that’s right! So you can either be afraid they’ll miss something and not want to use them, or you can feel confident that if they miss something, there may be no additional charge and want to use them. It’s Hot Shots Auto in Centennial. They’re on Jordan between Arapahoe and Broncos Pkwy.

{Photos taken with Samsung Galaxy S – AT&T’s Captivate using Vignette app.}

Why Do I Blog?

I’ve always loved writing. I’m better at getting thoughts out by writing than I am by speaking. Not only that, but not a lot of people find everything I have to say interesting. So here, on the off chance that someone reads what I write on any given day, they’re reading it because they either know me and are truly curious about what I have to say or because they searched the internet for a certain topic and one of my posts popped up in their search results. When I speak, I make a lot of left turns without signaling. Very few people can keep up with me. I can’t help it that my mouth can’t keep up with how fast things come to my mind! :P  Then there are the times where there are so many things in my mind that I want to blurt out without forgetting anything, but this traffic jam happens and nothing comes out at all. Frustrating.

These are just a few of the reasons I hate talking on the phone so much. The phone. UGH! Not only that, but background distractions are annoying when on the phone. That, plus talking on the phone can eat up a lot of time. Meeting someone in person to talk is a planned thing. Phone calls usually aren’t mutually planned. Inconvenient. It’s nothing personal. It really isn’t! Maybe I just solved my own dilemma – I need to plan phone calls.

I blog because I have a lot to say. It doesn’t matter if anyone else is interested in what I have to say or share the same opinion. What I write is personal. I try to keep every post from being highly opinionated, but I don’t make promises. Even when trying to express my opinion as delicately and diplomatically as I possibly can, there are bound to be people who will be offended or will strongly oppose my opinion. That’s alright! The world would be a boring place if we all shared the same opinion. :D

My blog is as scattered as my mind. It’s not only filled with day-to-day happenings in the life of Sheila. I mix it up with many different things – some totally off the wall topics, some current hot topics, some Bible topics, etc. Read it all, read a few, don’t read at all. It’s all good!

Blogging isn’t for everyone. Some consider it a waste of time. To each his/her own! I enjoy it! :)

Prom – Then and Now

It’s prom morning, and I’m thinking about the differences between our prom and proms these days. I don’t think the ticket price has changed much, but our ticket price included a sit-down dinner of steak or chicken. Kids today get nothing but bottled water and maybe some snacks I think. There’s a reason to avoid restaurants in April and May – you’ll have to wait a long time for a table. If the money is still being spent at a restaurant (and I’m sure you can add a couple extra bucks for gas for this separate stop), then why not plan the event to include dinner still? The only good thing from this decision is with the rising number of picky eaters and food allergies, the kids can pick a place that has food they know they like and can eat.

The other difference is that we didn’t have an organized (and supervised) after-prom activity. These kids are going to Dave & Busters until like 3 or 4 in the morning. This is definitely going to kill when it comes to picking them up. Yes, picking up. Since the only one(s?) with a license are still not allowed to drive more than either family or one extra person in the car yet, they must be chauffeured tonight. That means driving to the restaurant and then to the venue; then from the venue to Dave & Busters at 11; then from Dave & Busters to one or two drop-offs in the wee hours of the morning after a couple hours of sleep. Hmmm! I think Miss Jennifer and Miss Alison should be extra kind to their parents for the next week or two. Picking up some extra chores wouldn’t be a bad idea, either. <wink, nudge, twinkle in the eye>

OH! The corsage was an after thought! Since Ali’s just going with friends, there is no date to take on this responsibility. Then I started thinking about all the big, frilly corsages with that lace sticking out all over and the huge roses … UGH! Always looking to be unique and not a crowd follower, I found this really cool idea that she liked, too. The style goes perfectly with the Grecian style of her dress. I showed a picture to the florist and, of course, something like that would have needed to be ordered days ago. So off to the craft store we went for the basics, and this morning (before or after my meeting with a potential wedding client) I’ll be buying the few live flowers needed to make this thing myself. Wish me luck. There will be pictures … if it turns out! :D

UPDATE:  The corsage turned out!

William & Kate Royal Wedding – Worth Watching?

There are vastly differing opinions swirling around as to whether the royal wedding of 2011 was worth watching or not. I was one of the people who slept on the couch and woke up to watch it live. I’m not obsessed with royalty, nor do I have princess fantasies. I could have watched the replay, but I had to start working at 9:30. I could have recorded it, but then I’d have to find time to watch it later. So I chose to watch it early.

Why did I want to watch Prince William marry Kate Middleton? Many reasons. The most important of those being 1) he was marrying the woman he took the time to get to know and is truly in love with regardless of her blood line, and 2) from a photographer’s standpoint, I love anything to do with documenting life events. I was also curious about the dress. I didn’t believe she would shock the world with some modern or outrageous fashion just because of the sheer little thing she modeled on a catwalk years ago. I had a feeling it would be something timeless and classy.

I found the scripture reading by Kate’s brother, James Middleton, interesting in light of the media with their mouths watering for something, anything remotely controversial to report. For example, there’s been talk of the rule stating that the heir to the throne has to be the firstborn son (unless only daughters are born). There was also the chatter about Kate being a commoner, whose family started with very modest means. The verses were Romans 12:1-2, 9-18:

1 Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. 2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

9 Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. 10 Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. 11 Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. 12Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. 13 Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.

14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. 15 Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. 16 Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position.[c] Do not be conceited.

17 Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. 18If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone

I heard “do not conform”, “bless those who persecute you”, “be willing to associate with people of low position”, and “do not be conceited”. This portion of scripture already represents Will & Kate. To me, this selection was sending a message to everyone else. I love Romans, by the way!

There are comment threads on articles and Facebook pages with loudly voiced opinions. Some just wanted to escape all the bad and sad news going on in America for a bit. On the other side of that, some questioned why we would put so much focus on the royal wedding when so many are dealing with devastation in the aftermath of the many tornadoes in the southeastern United States. I don’t know how to word this delicately and without sounding like I don’t care (if you follow me on Facebook, you know that I care) but when something terrible happens, that doesn’t mean we can’t experience joy or pleasure without feeling guilty. I remember feeling guilty if I laughed at something right after my dad died. That’s all I have to compare it to right now. That was wrong. Emotions don’t have to be all or nothing.

One person said, “ Our focus should [be] on more important things going on in the US and world.” Really? I think there’s still plenty of focus on other (I won’t call them more important) things in the world. I think we focus too much on bad, terrible, horrible, and sad things in the world as it is. That’s why I avoid watching the news on local channels. I prefer in-depth reports or well-written articles to the brief, gasping segments aired on local channels. We only have this one life on earth (as far as we know), and I don’t believe we should waste it fretting and worrying about every little awful thing that can or does happen.

In the end, all I have to say to grumpy, angry people who make it not-so-quietly known that they don’t give a rat’s patoot about things like this is to just shut up and let those of us who do give a rat’s patoot about them enjoy it.

If You Could Have Any Job, What Would it Be?

I love my job and the people I work with – even though I don’t actually see them that often – but if I could have any job, it would definitely be in photography. I would love to be a White House photographer or travel the world and have my photos published in Nat Geo and Time magazines. Fashion photography would also be great!

Wedding photography is nice, and I love that a wedding photographer gives memories to be cherished for a lifetime to happy couples. There are so many variables there, though. There’s a lot of pressure to nail the perfect shots that you only get one chance to nail and then hope that the bride (because she’s the main one you’re aiming to please here) is not only satisfied but in love with the photos. This is their big day!

What I would really love to start offering are photo-documentaries. People who love the idea of scrapbooks but don’t have the time or talent to make them can hire me to be their personal photographer and end up with a personalized photo book of an event, a game, a special day, or even a period of time – baby’s first year or the progression of a pregnancy and childbirth. To tell a story through photos. What’s more precious than those memories? The everyday ordinary captured in extraordinary ways!

 

Latest Facebook Fad | Child Abuse Awareness via Cartoon Characters

Image Copyright vectorjunky.com. Thanks!Those of you who keep up with me on Facebook had to see this post coming – right?!

The latest viral status update on Facebook is encouraging everyone to change their profile pictures to a cartoon character from their childhood to raise awareness of child abuse. What it fails to do is encourage people to educate themselves about what they are supposedly raising awareness about. So of course I balked at the idea and created a bit of an uproar on my Facebook wall.

On the job, I have to write with tact, empathy, and diplomacy. Most of the time, my people-pleasing attitude smiles and nods just so I don’t have people mad at me. I can’t stand it when anyone is mad at me. So every now and then, I have to make up for lost time and just let it out!

If I did choose a cartoon character for my profile pic, it would be this little stinker, Jerry! Anyone surprised?

So here we go…

What is the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear “child abuse”? I bet a large percentage of you picture kids being beaten. Oh, honey, abuse comes in many forms! Lets not forget neglect and verbal abuse. They may not feel verbal abuse physically, but words cut deep. No words at all – equally damaging. Drinking alcohol, doing drugs, and putting carcinogens from cigarettes into your body while pregnant are also abuse.

What can you do about it?

Sadly, there’s often little we can do because we don’t always see it happening. We’re aware that it does happen, but we aren’t aware enough to recognize the signs. On the other end of the spectrum, some people overreact to seeing a child get a whack on the butt. I won’t get into the whole “spare the rod…” discussion here, though. (Interesting article on that.)

My son found a great website that educates: Prevent Child Abuse America

I encourage you to go to that site and learn more! It has information on recognizing and preventing abuse. It also offers alternatives to lashing out for those on the brink of abusing.

I could have simply smiled and nodded and used Jerry here as my profile picture and not typed a word on my Facebook wall, but I don’t believe that a cartoon picture alone will raise the right kind of awareness. The viral status simply tells people to help fight child abuse by changing their profile pic. That’s not right. The status should have equipped the public with tools to educate and truly make people aware.

The LIVESTRONG bracelets are worn to show support of the cause. It would be better for the not-so-tech-savvy people to actually print LIVESTRONG.org  on the bracelets to lead people to their website for more information but if you simply Google “livestrong”, there it is!

A poll in the NY Daily News asks “Are you changing your Facebook photo to stop child abuse?” This is poorly worded because we all know that displaying a picture is not going to stop anything. An overwhelming 72% answered “Yes! It was great to pick out my favorite cartoon character from yesteryear.” Read that again. “It was great to pick out my favorite cartoon character from yesteryear.” Fun! The only searching of the internet going on there is for pictures. How many people first chose to search the internet for information about child abuse. This is my argument! The whole controversy may have been somewhat muted if more information had been offered up front.

The problem could have been avoided if the campaign’s Facebook page was shared directly by clicking the Share link instead of copying and pasting a status update created by Lord only knows who. Blame it on operator error, I guess. To that person: See what you caused?! <wink & smile> That page does offer links to websites where you can educate yourself! Bravo!

Obviously, I’m not alone in my tirade. There’s a whole Facebook page dedicated to my point exactly!

The telephone game comes to mind. Things change along the way. Before getting swept up somewhere in the middle, do a little investigating. Arm yourself with the facts. Then, by all means, have fun with it! Is that too much to ask?

Colorado Weather Misconception

There seems to be a misconception about the weather in Colorado. People who don’t live here or have never been here seem to think it’s always cold here and that we don’t have all four seasons. We do! Each season is also experienced in the mountains, but it is colder the higher you go (naturally) and there is a much higher annual snowfall average up there.

Check out the average climate for Denver, Colorado. Then check out the average climate for St. Louis, Missouri (known for having four beautiful seasons). They’re really not all that different! We don’t get that much more snow than St. Louis at our elevation (5,800 feet in my neck of the woods).

So there you have it!  Misconception cleared up! Any questions?

Poor George

I believe we had a group effort going before to keep George healthy and perky. Whenever someone in the house would notice him getting a little droopy, they’d bring him some water. Well, there has been some serious neglect lately, and I was beginning to fear for his life. Not only was he drooping, but his poor leaves were quite scrawny, some of which were downright brittle!

I brought George home from St. Louis almost two years ago after my dad’s funeral. His name is George because that was a playful nickname of my dad’s when he was being a snot! “Alright, George!” I understand this Peace Lily is not my father, but it is a reminder. It’s also quite a lovely addition to the family room, bringing warmth and a wee bit of oxygen – something we can’t get enough of at the 5800 ft. elevation of Aurora, Colorado!

So I gave George a full two cups of water the other day, and he started to perk up again. Seeing this, I brought him another cup this morning and noticed that he has also sprouted some tender new growth in the middle! Oh happy day! So with a little careful grooming, I just might be able to revive him.