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Back-to-School Facebook Repost Request

I’m not one to repost things or to ask people to repost things, but I saw this on Facebook today and thought I’d share it in a different way:

Special request to all you kids returning to school in the next few days: If you see someone who is struggling to make friends or being bullied because he/ she doesn’t have many friends or because they are shy or not as pretty or not dressed in the most “in” clothes –PLEASE step up. Say hi or at least smile at them in the hallway. You never know what that person might be facing outside of school. Your kindness might just make a BIG difference in someone’s life! PLEASE REPOST THIS.

I certainly agree with this thought and am so glad that I have kids that would never treat others this way and that don’t pick their friends based on what clothes they wear or however else they look on the outside. That doesn’t mean they’re never on the other end of this scenario. When they are, it really hurts. Especially when it’s received for no apparent reason and completely unexpected.

Once upon a time, there were two girls who were great friends (at least it appeared that way to me). They were able to share a lot with each other. One of them received some pretty heavy news and decided to keep it to herself, possibly fearing judgment. The news involved the need for surgery that would have life-long implications. She finally revealed all of this to her dear friend, and that friend was there with her the day of surgery. She was amazing at offering support and keeping spirits up!

Cut to several months later (probably along with the normal life changes that teenagers go through) and there came along what resembled a break-up. A new best friend came along. I get it – I really do. Interests change and when that’s not mutual, we find someone else with common interests to spend time with. When that happens, people usually don’t sever ties completely creating awkward silences when group situations bring them together in the same place. It’s kind of sad, and it does fit with the quoted repost request above. Step up (and I know that one half of the former duo has tried) and say “Hi!” A little casual conversation won’t kill, either.

That’s really all I have to say about this – and for the longest time, I chose not to say anything at all. However, this is my blog and my thoughts so there it is … out there.

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Best Friends

How do you define a “best friend”? Frankly, I don’t like the term. There are those we are closer to at some point in our lives, and those aren’t always the same people we’re closer to at other points in our lives. This isn’t necessarily because of a falling out; but merely a change in interests perhaps. What two people had in common a year ago or more may not be the same now. That doesn’t mean the friendship dies. The people just drift apart a bit and (maybe) become closer to others. Rinse & repeat.

Lifestyle changes have altered many a friendship in my life. That’s fine. We don’t all need to see eye-to-eye on every aspect of life. Tax bracket, marital status, parenting styles, similarity in age of kids – all these things have come into play in my friendships. Sad, but true in some cases, but it’s a fact of life. There are friends I miss and think of often (hi Missy & Cara!), and there are others that I suppose will remain “friends” without the “best”. I prefer to roll that way actually.

I have one best friend in my life … ’til death do us part. He’s the one person I can be completely myself with and I don’t have to worry if he agrees with me or not. He still loves me just the way I am, in spite of (and maybe because of) my oddities. I can dump my feelings on him, and it doesn’t even matter if he has anything to offer in the way of a response. In fact, usually I think it’s better that way. I’m not all about the commiserating and lengthy conversations. A great babbling conversation with a girlfriend feels good every now and then, but I could survive without them. I have my blog and my family for that!

I’m so grateful for all the friends and acquaintances I have in my life. They’re all “the best”. I prefer not to have one “best friend” though. That’s all!

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